How Parents Can Help with the Emotional Challenges of Transitioning

School transitions can be pretty tough for kids – and as a mom you want to help ease them through it – but how?

Parents can help with the emotional challenges of transitioning, but sometimes it’s hard to know how to help. Here are some tips on how you can help your kids make those important transitions.

Preschool to Kindergarten

Here may be one of the first big transitions in your child’s life. The emotional challenges of this age involve separation anxiety and social readiness (or unreadiness). Here are some tips.

* Tour the school with your child over the summer before he or she begins kindergarten. Familiarizing her with the teacher, classrooms, playground, and overall layout of the school will help a lot.

* Understand her feelings, say experts. Parents may get impatient with separation anxiety and tears, but if you’re going to support your child, it’s a good idea to understand where she’s coming from. Talk about how she feels, and help her put words to the feelings (that can be hard at this age). This helps her identify the feelings which may make them less scary.

Grade School to Middle School

This can be a big one. It’s an emotional age at this point, so parents would do well to prepare themselves. Some of these tips may help.

* Understanding feelings is important at this age, too, but it’s not the same as going from preschool to grade school. Obviously, your child doesn’t need words to identify what he’s feeling. As a parent, you can help by recognizing the priority shift your child will have. His emotions are more focused on peers and the opposite sex than they were in grade school.

* Asking questions without judgment can help parents connect emotionally with their kids during transitional challenges. Try to find out what your child’s concerns, fears, and apprehensions are, as well as the things he is looking forward to and is excited about.

Middle School to High School

Kids start feeling independent and “grown up” about this time. Here are some tips on dealing with this transition.

* Help them solve their own problems. At this point, calling the school for every complaint may not help your child. The transition may be smoother if you can offer some problem solving skills and strategies to help your child help herself. This is an opportunity to help your child come up with a plan to help solve the issues at hand.

* Go to orientation if it’s offered. If it’s not, tour the school. Find teachers and advisors who can talk to your student about her fears and concerns, which will help alleviate some of those concerns. Many times, kids fear high school for reasons that really aren’t realistic.

High School to College

Sending your child off to college is a big step! How can parents help their increasingly-independent child with this transition? Here are some tips.

* Validate your child’s feelings about this big change. It may be tempting to blow off their problems – they don’t have “real problems” grown-ups may think – but remember your college-aged kids don’t have the life experience and frame of reference that you do. Being patient with their concerns can help make their transition smoother. Let them vent!

* Keep in touch with care packages and special gifts at key times (like final exams or his birthday). This helps support them more than you may know!

 

Your Questions About Mother Daughter Bonding Network

Laura asks…

If someone’s mother steals $5,000 from them?

Say a woman’s daughter has a bond worth $20,000. The mother is in charge of her money until she is 25, and then the daughter will have control over it. The mother puts her daughter‘s money into an account that they share, there’s hardly ever any money in the account. The mother spends $5,000 of the money and the daughter finds out. She buys a bunch of stuff from Home Shopping Network in her name. The daughter wants to take her to court. Will the mom go to prison. or jail for months? The mom also tried to file for bankruptcy 5 years ago when she spent $100,000 she didn’t have too, but the judge or someone said they’d take away her house so she makes her husband pay for everything.

richmama answers:

If her name is on the account and she has access to it, its not stealing. Sorry.

While ethically horrible, not illegal. You could possibly go to civil court over it, but its not stealing or illegal

George asks…

Help us support friend who lost baby?

Friends daughter had a stillborn baby 2 yrs ago and is now preg with 2nd child to a diff father. Is understandably scared and has significant medical support in place owing to the risk of pregnancy (previous pre eclampsia life threatening.) Has told father of baby she has no feelings for him and has thus ended the relationship. Daughter who is 22 remains living at home and is dependant upon parents to accommodate however has small income from casual employment. Recently she told her mother that she was having second thoughts re separation from bf but later that night contacted him and said she want nil to do with him and not to contact her until after birth of child. Why is she lying all the time, she has been caught out on a few lies of late primarily about her relationship. Understandably the daughter is scared of loosing this child and as a result is having some difficulty bonding with unborn but is also pushing friends away and now only goes to work, medical appts and spends some time on social network sites. Father of baby devastated, how can we help? Some borderline personality traits of behavior presenting here is it because of the stress of the pregnancy?

richmama answers:

Mayby she just want to know do father of the baby realy care
and if he gona try to get her back
She needs alot of attention now
i had miscarriage 5 month ago and i was lost im 16 weeks now and everything is fine
i been scared all the time, been thinking i mid gona lose this one but everything is fine

Good luck

Lisa asks…

Gossip – A Novel…What do you think?

I am writing a novel on the life of a soon-to-be star by the name of Rachel Pulaski, but goes by her “star” name, Rachel Rogers. her father, Vince MacLean, is in cheesy type tv shows “general hospital” and the 21st centuries “james bond” type actor. her mother, now divorced with Vince, is the happy-go-lucky type, not in the biz, but a musician for an independent folk ensemble with her new fiance, Luc Wildberry (fake stage name – Lawrence Williams), and pretty much leaves Rachel and her other daughter, Anna, to Vince and Veronica, Vince’s new wife. Veronica Meyers, the talk of the hollywood scene, has starred in many short french films, but is now changing over to the american dramas and Crime-thrillers. Now that Rachel knows she is destined to be a star, she has to overcome her dad’s reputation to become her own title and person. She lands a spot on the newest vampire-romance series, Sucks to be Me, on an ABC-like channel, ATN (america’s television network). But she soon finds herself offered jobs Angelina and Drew B. would die for! not to mention “innocent” 14-yea-old Anna is caught backstage kissing the shows leading man! here is the beginnging of the story. they are at their father’s movie premiere, Land of the Unspoken, a mystery…

The bright, pulsating wave of flashing camera bulbs exploded simultaneously, blinding me momentarily. But the sudden bursts of vivid white wasn’t an fraction of an iota of enough distraction to offset my picture-perfect smile. No wonder Teen Vogue and CosmoGirl! were yelling “Rachel! Rachel! Look over here!” and begging for interviews for next Friday. But though having a superstar, bona fide father is beyond the teen expectations, the aftermath of numerous red-carpet experiences can result in blood-shot eyes in the deepest shade of crimson you could imagine. Yet, I plastered on a faux grin and locked my arm through Dad’s, and looked like a was having the grandest time even though my Christian Louboutin pumps were digging into my pedicured-feet and my 2009 Versace tube dress was a quarter-inch too small around my barely-there stomach.

what do you think? questions or comments? by the way, its named Gossip – A Novel and the sequel is He Said, She Said. thanks!

richmama answers:

I don’t get the connection between acting on general hospital and in james bond films. The actors that fill these two roles are drastically different (can you picture Danial Craig in a soap?). Also, if Veronica Meyers is a french film star, give her a french name. For example: Vivienne or Myriam (put an accent on one of the e’s) and a last name that ends in an x or something (Molieux, for example). Just look at the list of actor’s names in the credits for ‘Amelie’.

Donna asks…

What do you think of this 3 O.C. men arrested in child sex crimes cases?

what is your open on these men and the girls involved also what do you think should be done

The Sexual Assault Felony Enforcement team, or SAFE, a multi-agency task force that investigates crimes against children, announced this morning the arrest of David Brown, 34, of Lake Forest; Richard Chaney, 23, Costa Mesa; and Brock Jackson, 21, of Rancho Santa Margarita.

Brown is accused of having a four-month-long sexual relationship with a 15-year-old girl he met online.

Chaney is accused of having a 14-year-old girl engage in live video sex acts, and of later having sex with her. He is also accused of raping another woman who was unconscious.
Jackson is accused of possessing hundreds of videos and about 6,000 images of child pornography.

Chaney and Jackson are being charged in federal court.

Brown is being charged in Orange County Superior Court sex acts with a minor. He surrendered to authorities Wednesday, and is free on a $100,000 bail bond.

Brown came to the attention of law enforcement after he was found on a high school campus trying to talk to the girl, officials said. The investigation found that Brown had portrayed himself as a 22-year-old on a social networking Web site, and used the Internet to chat with high school girls, police said.

Chaney was arrested June 5 after the mother of a 14-year-old girl told authorities that her daughter had performed sexual acts in front of her Webcam for Chaney, and that Chaney had later slept with her, officials said.

A search of Chaney’s apartment uncovered a video of him having sex with an unconscious woman, said David Baroway, a special agent supervisor with the California Department of Justice.

Baroway said there were also other illegal videos in the apartment, but declined to say whether they involved Chaney.

In December 2008, Fullerton police were investigating a vehicle theft, and discovered that the man they suspected in that crime, Jackson, had child pornography on his computer, Baroway said.

The hundreds of videos and roughly 6,000 photos of child pornography included images of children who were “very, very young,” Baroway said.
lets not be offensive to the victims, if you have a heart put yourself in their shoes and think about how theyd feel after this, its really not helping for you to make snide remarks about the victims save it for the crimminals…

richmama answers:

Its sick, its horrible. These guys are the definition of scum and should be put in jail for 25 years so they get their s*** pushed in and then give em the death sentence. People like that should not be let out or just be given a bail amount for their actions. No matter how much the bail amount, the damage can never be taken away.

I feel sorry for those kids that have gone through this. Its sad

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Your Questions About Live Life To The Fullest Quotes

James asks…

What is this “live life to the fullest” quote?

I read a quote at the San Francisco Exploratorium the other day, but now I can’t find it anywhere. It was on a skeleton display and talked about living life to the fullest by laughing loudly, getting really angry, etc, because soon you’ll be dead.

richmama answers:

Was it this one?

“Live out loud! Live life to it’s fullest. Don’t just laugh out loud, but cry out loud as well. Take all those wonderful feelings you have and let them out, they are the key to making your dreams come true. You need to know your feelings, so they can lead you down the path you were meant to follow. Max it all out when it comes to living your life, meet your end, exhausted, but happy with the knowledge you lived your life to the fullest.” Edward W. Smith

Donald asks…

Quotes about living life to the fullest?

know any quotes about living life to the fullest?

richmama answers:

Dying is just the price of living life to the fullest and i am prepared to take it. Carolyn Aitken

Reach for the sky, set goals, live life to the fullest and always remember to wake up each day with a smile. Brandy Miller

Here was a rare man, who lived a rare life and showed us the way to live life at its fullest. Jimmy Allen

To discover life to the fullest, one must start within. Sasha Azevedo

His death impacted many people, … He enjoyed life to the fullest.David Allison

I’m going to live my dream and live my life to the fullest. I can’t wait to find some great artists locally. Shelly Stont

This is your life. Choose to live it to the fullest. Gabriella Goddard

Being a runner means you are now “free” to win and lose and live life to its fullest. Bill Rodgers

If you choose to live without any form of belief or religion, you have absolutely no excuse for not living your life to the fullest. Reinier Kahle

He lived life to the fullest. It was just a little too short. Tom Bass

Life is short, so enjoy it to the fullest. John Walters

These were wonderful people enjoying life to the fullest. Phyllis Magier

Live life to the fullest, for the future is scarce. Nick Carter

life is beautiful, enjoy it to the fullest. Leon Trotsky

I really lived life to its fullest and that got me in trouble from time to time. Matthew Perry

Live life to the fullest. Ernest Hemingway

Death gives life its fullest reality. Anthony Dalla Villa

Have a nice day! 🙂

Mandy asks…

Looking for quotes about living life to the fullest.?

In need of some inspiration right about now. Just broke it off with my girlfriend, feeling kinda bummed, but dont want to let it slow me down. Maybe some inspirational quotes that have to do with living life to the fullest and appreciating the ups and downs.

richmama answers:

Fall seven times, stand up eight.
– Japanese Proverb

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed
by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.
So throw off the bowlines.
Sail away from the safe harbor.
Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore. Dream. Discover.
– Mark Twain

Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.
– Anonymous

Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.
– William James

Courage doesn’t always roar.
Sometimes courage is the quiet voice
at the end of the day saying,
“I will try again tomorrow.”
– Mary Anne Radmacher

Life is a song-sing it.
Life is a game – play it.
Life is a challenge – meet it.
Life is a dream – realize it.
Life is a sacrifice – offer it.
Life is love – enjoy it.
– Sai Baba

Appreciate even the hard situations because without them you wouldn’t be where you are today.
-Me 🙂

Everything I’m not made me everything I am:)
-Unknown.

Susan asks…

What are some quotes about living life ot the fullest/ in just one moment, everything could be taken away?

I am doing a Motto project for class and my motto is something along the lines of, “live with no regrets” or live L.I.F.E. (live Like It’s Friday Everyday)
I was wondering if there are any quotes that kind of relate to this topic? Thank you!!

richmama answers:

Live for today. Yesterday is gone, tomorrow may never come.

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